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3 Step Formula For Overcoming Resistance to Change:
Change is inevitable, but controlled change and self-improvement are completely discretionary.
I don’t know about you guys, but I want to be constantly improving myself. I want to be my own change agent.
I just got back from a Title 1 Educational Conference. It was an amazing experience which I’ll write about in more detail later (It was a very eye-opening experience for a non-teacher to attend.)
One of the classes that I attended by Shawn Clark and Brady Venables from Classroom Confessional was absolutely amazing.
They talked about what is needed to actually make a chance within a school. Their district had received a $500,000 grant which was supposed to fix all of their problems. Although it fixed many of the issues, they quickly realized that throwing money at issues wasn’t the solution.
Solutions came from meaningful change. Meaningful change only occurs when our resistance to change can be overcome.
Their lesson was incredibly applicable on a personal level because of a very simple formula they shared.
For me, I honestly believe that this formula is going to become life changing.
It is simply:
Dissatisfaction X Vision X First Steps > Resistance
(D x V x FS > R)
So here is the breakdown:
Dissatisfaction with current situation X Your Vision of the Future X Your First Step to change Must be Greater than your Resistance to Change
You give each variable a numeric value between 1 and 10. If the beginning of your equation multiplies out to be greater then 100 then you will be able to make the change. If not, the chances of you making lasting change decreases.
In other words, you must find a way of increasing one of the variables if you want to actually succeed.
So let’s give this a practical application.
Our teachers used the example of weight loss. I hate to copy them, but it is such a great example and one that most people can associate with.
So for example, I’ve recently lost most of my postpartum weight. I’ve got 3 pounds left to get back to my pre-pregnancy weight. Those last three pounds have been very, very stubborn.
However, I’ve got a new incentive in my life. We are leaving for Hawaii in a few weeks. Talk about a great way to increase my vision.
So in early December when I first started my weight loss push my change formula looked kind of like this (if I had known about this formula at that point in my life)
Dissatisfaction (8) x Vision (3) x First Steps (5) > Resistance (120)
With a 120 score, I was high enough to overcome basic resistance and I was able to lose the first 6-7 pounds, but I had stalled out in the last few weeks. My reasons for change just weren’t high enough to overcome to resistance to actually doing the work needed.
Now with our vacation so close my formula looks more like this:
Dissatisfaction (6) x Vision (8) x First Steps (7) > Resistance (336)
My formula is completely different right now.
Since I’ve lost the majority of the weight my dissatisfaction level has decreased. However, my vision of what I can do has increased significantly.
It isn’t so much how I look, as a very strong desire to be in shape physically so that I can cart Ella all over the island. I’m not a hang out at the beach vacationer. I’m a go, go, go vacationer and I want to visit all of the waterfalls and do a ton of hiking while I’m there.
With this vision, it makes it significantly easier for me to take the first steps, which involves increased exercise and a decrease in sugar.
However, I knew that I was going to lose the last three pounds before I heard about this formula. It was already something I was working towards.
So why does the resistance to change formula matter?
Maybe I’m alone, but being able to score myself and see the numeric values associated with my reasons for change really helps me to visualize the steps I need to take to accomplish a specific goal.
The concept of resistance to change had never been factored into any goals I’ve set for myself. At times I succeed in my goals, other times I fail miserably. I’ve never taken the time to really do an in-depth analysis of why I’ve failed, but after viewing this formula it is as plain as day.
My reasons for change just weren’t as strong as my resistance to change.
By reshaping my equation and finding reasons to overcome my resistance I can completely revamp my goal setting formula.
There is something about being able to see the numbers that really helps me to visualize what my pain points are. Once I know my pain points my chance of success increases significantly.
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