There is an ugly side to Facebook. Recently this picture popped up on my newsfeed.
I’m sure by now most of you have seen it and probably heard the controversy surrounding it. To make it short and sweet Maria Kang’s picture has sparked a firestorm of debate. I believe most people have viewed the picture as the inspirational message it was intended to be. Some people have not and have completely vilified Mrs. Kang.
I am a firm believer in the right to self-expression. Her detractors have the right say whatever they would like, in part because she put the picture out there for recognition. This picture includes her website and I believe was intended as a marketing tool.
I think I can safely say she ended up with a bit more marketing then she intended.
So long and short I have no problem with people expressing their distaste of the picture. What I don’t understand is the personal attack so many of them are making. People are calling her a bully, bad mother and waxing poetically about her numerous sins. She has chosen to spend her extra time working out and taking care of her body. I chose to spend my extra time writing this blog entry. Why is it our business how she chooses to spend her extra time? We only have 24 hours in each day, I don’t care how rich or poor you are, everyone has the same hourly resources. It is what you do with those hours that will set you apart.
Mrs. Kang has chosen to utilize her time for fitness. She has obviously set goals for herself and worked hard to achieve them. Why do we tear other people down over and over again instead of celebrating their successes? Why do we constantly bad mouth people who are working hard and trying to accomplish goals? Why have we become so negative?
I am inherently a positive person. Over the years on the rare times I’ve had a nickname it has always been sunshine. I’m pretty much universally happy. Just because I’ve got an optimistic personality doesn’t mean that happiness just happens. Being positive takes hard work and effort. The benefits vastly outweigh the easier negative route. Negatively in my mind is a constant downward spiral. Once you start thinking negative thoughts it is so easy to allow those thoughts to affect all aspects of your life. Once those thoughts take root in your mind, you can’t help but lash out at others.
I believe the root of most negative action is based on feelings of worthlessness in oneself. So rather than take out your anger on someone like Mrs. Kang, do a little bit of self-analysis. Why does this picture make you mad? Does it make you feel self-conscious about yourself? Does it make you feel guilty for slacking off? Why are you letting the actions of a complete stranger upset you?
I know that not everyone can look like Mrs. Kang. I’m fairly small and petite and have never had any major weight issues, but even at my high fitness points I’ve never looked that good. For all I know you may have some major health issues that prevent you from having this type of body. I’ve got girlfriends who will never be a size 6 – it just isn’t physically possible. There size doesn’t matter, what matter is how they feel about themselves. Ultimately it isn’t about what you look like on the outside it is what you feel about yourself on the inside.
So stop stressing about Mrs. Kang and her amazing body. If that is what you want, then set some goals and go for it.
Be realistic. Set goals that work for you. Set goals that are actually achievable. Work hard and never, never, never give up.
PS. I checked out her website www.mariakang.com. It was actually pretty interesting. She sounds like a really nice person.
PPS. Shortly after writing this post I came across this blog entry that really tells the other side. It is written by a professional photographer and details her realization that “vanity is not longer a reason to avoid the camera.” I highly recommend this article. “So you are feeling to fat to be photographed”
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