Change is inevitable, but controlled change and self-improvement are completely discretionary.
I don’t know about you guys, but I want to be constantly improving myself. I want to be my own change agent.
I just got back from a Title 1 Educational Conference. It was an amazing experience which I’ll write about in more detail later (It was a very eye-opening experience for a non-teacher to attend.)
One of the classes that I attended by Shawn Clark and Brady Venables from Classroom Confessional was absolutely amazing.
They talked about what is needed to actually make a chance within a school. Their district had received a $500,000 grant which was supposed to fix all of their problems. Although it fixed many of the issues, they quickly realized that throwing money at issues wasn’t the solution.
Solutions came from meaningful change. Meaningful change only occurs when our resistance to change can be overcome.
Their lesson was incredibly applicable on a personal level because of a very simple formula they shared.
For me, I honestly believe that this formula is going to become life-changing.
It is simply:
Dissatisfaction X Vision X First Steps > Resistance
(D x V x FS > R)
So here is the breakdown:
Dissatisfaction with current situation X Your Vision of the Future X Your First Step to change Must be Greater than your Resistance to Change
You give each variable a numeric value between 1 and 10. If the beginning of your equation multiplies out to be greater then 100 then you will be able to make the change. If not, the chances of you making lasting change decreases.
In other words, you must find a way of increasing one of the variables if you want to actually succeed.
Practical Application To Help You Overcome Your Resistance to Change
Our teachers used the example of weight loss. I hate to copy them, but it is such a great example and one that most people can associate with.
So for example, I’ve recently lost most of my postpartum weight. I’ve got 3 pounds left to get back to my pre-pregnancy weight. Those last three pounds have been very, very stubborn.
However, I’ve got a new incentive in my life. We are leaving for Hawaii in a few weeks. Talk about a great way to increase my vision.
So in early December when I first started my weight loss push my resistance to change formula looked kind of like this (if I had known about this formula at that point in my life).
Dissatisfaction (8) x Vision (3) x First Steps (5) > Resistance (120)
With a 120 score, I was high enough to overcome basic resistance and I was able to lose the first 6-7 pounds, but I had stalled out in the last few weeks. My reasons for change just weren’t high enough to overcome my resistance to actually doing the work needed.
Now with our vacation so close my formula looks more like this:
Dissatisfaction (6) x Vision (8) x First Steps (7) > Resistance (336)
My formula is completely different right now.
Since I’ve lost the majority of the weight my dissatisfaction level has decreased. However, my vision of what I can do has increased significantly.
It isn’t so much how I look, as a very strong desire to be in shape physically so that I can cart Ella all over the island. I’m not a hang out at the beach vacationer. I’m a go, go, go vacationer and I want to visit all of the waterfalls and do a ton of hiking while I’m there.
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With this vision, it makes it significantly easier for me to take the first steps and overcome my resistance to change. Even though I want to change, it is hard to decrease my sugar consumption and increase my level of exercise. I couldn’t make the necessary changes until I learned how to overcome my resistance to change.
So why does the resistance to change formula matter?
Maybe I’m alone, but being able to score myself and see the numeric values associated with my reasons for change really helps me to visualize the steps I need to take to accomplish a specific goal.
The concept of resistance to change had never been factored into any goals I’ve set for myself. At times I succeed in my goals, other times I fail miserably. I’ve never taken the time to really do an in-depth analysis of why I’ve failed, but after viewing this formula it is as plain as day.
My reasons for change just weren’t as strong as my resistance to change.
By reshaping my resistance to change equation and finding reasons to overcome my resistance I can completely revamp my goal setting formula.
There is something about being able to see the numbers that really helps me to visualize what my pain points are. Once I know my pain points my chance of success increases significantly.
One of the Best Methods of Overcoming resistance to Change is to track your daily habits
When I was working through my resistance to change formula, I discovered very quickly that one of the best ways to accomplish my goals was to track my daily habits. I personally believe that tracking your daily habits is one of the biggest ways to achieve success as you work towards overcoming your resistance to change.
When I first started I would write down my goal and then do a quick checkbox in my calendar if I succeeded. It worked for a while, but when I began working on more daily habits it wasn’t enough space.
Eventually, I developed my own forms to help me overcome my negative habits and work towards positive change in my life. If this is something you are working on, I highly recommend downloading my tracking daily habits template.
This template will help walk you through the steps you need to change your habits as you work towards the positive goals that will impact your life.
If you have a goal you are working towards and you are having problems overcoming your resistance to change, I highly recommend using this formula and the
daily habits template. I promise that if you are willing to put in the work, you’ll be able to make the changes in your life you need.
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